Some days back I wrote about breaking up long relationship. A typical example, happened in my compound where I live yesterday. It was really sad to watch the couple split up.

Sandra and Humphrey have been dating for 6 six years now, they haven't decided to tie the knots yet, but the have a beautiful one year old daughter together.

No day passes, without us in the compound hearing their loud voices whenever they have an argument which always results to fighting. They always scream at each other and say hurtful words to each other. It has been like that for the past six years.

Yesterday, they finally decided to split up. When I got home after work, I saw Sandra's Load outside their house, and I could hear Humphrey shouting on top of his voice, also there was a Cab waiting outside to pick up Sandra’s things.

Before I knew it, Sandra and Humphrey were fighting. We the neighbors ran to their house to separate them and they began to tell us the reason of their fight. Sandra wanted to pick up the Generator they have in their house, but Humphrey refused, saying that the Gen is his. But Sandra insisted on taking it because according to her, she gave Humphrey the money to but it. And not just that, Sandra wanted to take her dressing mirror from the house as well, but Humphrey refused. saying he bought it with his money, so she is going no where with it. We the neighbors were confused, we then advice Sandra to take only the dressing mirror and forget about the Gen set. After much talking they bought agree to our suggestion.

Lastly, when she was about to leave the house after moving all her things, she picked up her child to go with her, but to our great amazement, Humphrey ran straight to where she was and wanted to collect their child from her, telling her that she can't go with the child. At this stage, we the neighbors couldn't settle this because from all indication they both wanted the child, so all we could do, was to advice them to seek a legal adviser. But the worst part of the story is; both of them are not fit to take care of the child, the guy doesn't have a job, also the girl, she is still in the university. So now, what will happen to poor child, the child started crying when she saw both father and mother dragging her. She doesn't have a clue of what is going on around her..............

Finally, Sandra left with the child. But Humphrey threatened to get the child back through the help of a legal adviser.

Readers this is the end of a six years relationship. Such a bitter end, and who suffers the consequences? The innocent child.

So this is my advice to readers out there, you don't need to date some one for several years without commitment, this is a New Year, if you are in a relationship that is heading to no where, better take your stand and leave before it becomes too late, please don't bring a child into the world, who will not grow up in a home of love with both his parents.
A child need to grow up in a home of love, peace, unity and harmony not in a home of strife, jealousy, fighting, quarrelling, e.t.c.

This Piece is dedicated to all coffee lovers.

I saw this useful piece for pregnant women on yahoo news page today, I decided to share it with as many pregnant women that are reading this blog.

Happy reading...............................

Pregnant women who drink two or more cups of coffee a day have twice the risk of having a miscarriage as those who avoid caffeine, U.S. researchers said on Monday.

They said the study provides strong evidence that high doses of caffeine during pregnancy -- 200 milligrams or more per day or the equivalent of two cups of coffee -- significantly increase the risk of miscarriage.

And they said the research may finally put to rest conflicting reports about the link between caffeine consumption and miscarriage.

"Women who are pregnant or are actively seeking to become pregnant should stop drinking coffee for three months or hopefully throughout pregnancy," said Dr. De-Kun Li of Kaiser Permanente Division of Research, whose study appears in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology.

"There has been a lot of uncertainty about this," Li said in a telephone interview. "There was no firm advice from professional societies to say what a pregnant woman should do about caffeine intake."

Li said anywhere from 15 to 18 studies have found a link between caffeine use during pregnancy and miscarriage. But that association has been clouded by the fact that many pregnant women avoid caffeine because it makes them nauseated, which could skew the results.

Li and colleagues took pains to control for that possibility. Their study involved 1,063 pregnant women who were members of the Kaiser Permanente health plan in San Francisco from October 1996 through October 1998. Women in the group never changed their caffeine consumption during pregnancy.

What they found was women who consumed the equivalent of two or more cups of regular coffee or five 12-ounce cans of caffeinated soda -- were twice as likely to miscarry as pregnant women who avoided caffeine.

This risk appeared to be related to the caffeine, rather than other chemicals in coffee, because they also saw an increased risk when the caffeine was consumed in soda, tea, and hot chocolate.

Li said many researchers think caffeine is harmful because it stresses the fetus' immature metabolism. It may also decrease blood flow in the placenta, which could harm the fetus.

"To me, the safe dose is zero," Li said. "If you really have to drink coffee, try to limit it to one cup or at the most two cups." Or better yet, switch to decaffeinated beverages, he added.

Based on the findings, Dr. Tracy Flanagan, director of women's health at Kaiser Permanente Northern California, said pregnant women should think about limiting coffee to one cup a day, and they might want to cut it out entirely.

This is some very useful information.

4 THINGS YOU PROBABLY NEVER KNEW YOUR MOBILE PHONE COULD DO

There are a few things that can be done in times of grave emergencies. Your mobile phone can actually be a life saver or an emergency tool for survival. Check out the things that you can do with it:

FIRST: Emergency

The Emergency Number worldwide for Mobile is 112. If you find yourself out of the coverage area of your mobile; network and there is an emergency, dial 112 and the mobile will search any existing network to establish the emergency number for you, and interestingly this number 112 can be dialed even if the keypad is locked. Try it out.

SECOND: Have you locked your keys in the car?

Does your car have remote keyless entry? This may come in handy someday. Good reason to own a cell phone: If you lock your keys in the car and the spare keys are at home, call someone at home on their mobile phone from your cell phone. Hold your cell phone about a foot from your car door and have the person at your home press the unlock
button, holding it near the mobile phone on their end. Your car will unlock. Saves someone from having to drive your keys to you. Distance is no object. You could be hundreds of miles away, and if you can reach
someone who has the other 'remote' for your car, you can unlock the doors (or the trunk).
Editor's Note: It works fine! We tried it out and it unlocked our car over a mobile phone!'

THIRD: Hidden Battery Power

Imagine your mobile battery is very low. To activate, press the keys *3370# Your mobile will restart with this reserve and the instrument will show a 50% increase in battery. This reserve will get charged when you charge your mobile next time.

FOURTH: How to disable a STOLEN mobile phone?

To check your Mobile phone's serial number, key in the following digits on your phone * # 0 6 #
A 15 digit code will appear on the screen. This number is unique to your handset. Write it down and keep it somewhere safe. When your phone get stolen, you can phone your service provider and give them this code.
They will then be able to block your handset so even if the thief changes the SIM card, your phone will be totally useless. You probably won't get your phone back, but at least you know that whoever stole it can't use/sell it either. If everybody does this, there would be no point in people stealing mobile phones.

This is the kind of information people don't mind
receiving, so pass it on to your family and friends

Yesterday, after we had dinner, my husband and I sat down to watch network News on TV. I was amazed at the number of rape cases that was mentioned. One of the stories that really touched me to my bones was the case of a 50 years old man who raped his 8 years old daughter, can you imagine that?. As I sat there in my sitting room, I just couldn't stop thinking, when will all these rape cases come to an end? when?.

Talking about rape case, reminded me of a true life story I Read some few days back:

Read on!!
My name is Kate and I am 16 years old. Last summer I was a normal 15 year old girl ready to go into 10th grade. But one night changed everything. I was at an end of summer party and everything was okay until I it became a drinking party. I was never into that whole scene and I really wanted to leave. My boyfriend Michael had decided to stay so I just thought I would walk home. When I was about halfway home a car pulled up next to me, and I heard a guy ask me if I need a ride. The voice was a familiar, and was in fact a guy I have known since we were kids, so I went up to the car and leaned into the drivers side window. When I saw him he looked obviously drunk so I refused the ride and continued walking. He got out of the car and told me to come with him. At that point I was getting nervous so I started to run. He chased me down, took me to the back seat, and I'm sure you can figure out the rest.

Completely distraught I called Michael and told him what happened, except who it was. I told him that I didn't recognize the person. I was a complete emotion wreck for the next couple of weeks. Michael felt really bad that he had stayed and continued to blame himself for everything. The two of us struggled with what had happened. I was dealing with the shock and I didn't want anyone to know who it was, and Michael was dealing with guilt and trying to convince me to tell the cops. We thought it could never get worse, until I realized I was late. I thought that maybe it was stress, but I decided to take a pregnancy test. It came back positive. At that moment I felt almost as though God had totally abandoned me. I asked myself over and over how this could happen or what I ever did to deserve this.

I told Michael. I was almost positive he would bail. He wasn't the father so why on earth would he stick around? I realized God might still be on my side when Michael said he wasn't going anywhere. He was my rock from the very beginning. This strength he gave me, helped give me hope so I decided to choose life. I would be lying if I told you abortion didn't cross my mind. But I knew that what had happened to me wasn't this baby's fault. So I decided to keep the baby.

The next thing to do was to tell my parents. I was terrified out of my mind. Everytime I tried to get it out, I couldn't. I was embarrassed. I could have easily said "Mom, Dad, I'm pregnant" but getting the words out, "I was raped," was and is something I still struggle to say. When I finally told them they did not believe me. They thought I was making up and elaborate story to cover up mine and Michaels "mistake." They told me that if I didn't confess to the "truth" I wouldn't be able to see Michael again. Michael said he would say the baby was his, but I couldn't lie, not about that. I stuck to the truth. But my parents stuck to their guns too. They decided to send me away for the duration of my pregnancy to live with my grandmother in Boston. I was forced to do cyber school which was boring and ridiculous. My grandmother was so embarrassed she told me to stay inside as much as I could and even told some of her neighbors I was married and my "husband" was overseas. I basically had to live in hell. A million emotions were running through me and the hormones obviously didn't help. I was either depressed or angry the entire time. Except for when I snuck phone calls to Michael.

This April my parents finally decided to let me come home. The word had gotten out about my pregnancy so they figured there was no point in having me away. When I came home, my parents still didn't believe me. My dad wouldn't talk to me. In fact, I don't think he ever looked at me once when I was pregnant. My mom would talk to me, but it was about everything except the pregnancy. My friends wouldn't talk to me either. Not only was I "the pregnant girl" but I was the "lying pregnant girl." Only two of my friends have really stayed by my side since I came home.

With only one month to go, I was starting to get really anxious. I didn't think I was ready. I started to think about breaking up with Michael because I thought I would be tying him down for the rest of his life. I was scared, and nervous. I even had the fear that my baby would look like the guy, a fear that I was really embarassed about. I knew I would love my baby no matter what, but it was hard to not think about that. One day I asked Michael what he wanted the baby to call him when he could talk. I asked him, "How about Mikey?" Michael just looked at me and said, "Well, I was hoping Daddy." From that moment on all the nerves were gone. I had my rock and I was ready to go through with everything.

On Wednesday May 23, 2007 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, Jayden Matthew. It was love at first sight. I really never knew it was possible to love someone who can't even talk. My little boy is now over a week old and we are our own little family. Everytime I wake up and look over at his crib it takes my breath away. His name says it all for me. Jayden "Thankful" and Matthew "Gift of God." My mother is in love with Jayden but she hasn't really talked to me since he was born. I'm just going to give her time, because I know that one day she will believe me. Michael is already jumping into daddy mode, coming over every single day and even offering to change diapers. The "guy" has moved away. Sometime, somehow I'm going to tell Michael who it was, but I'm still not ready yet. These past couple of months have been a complete rollar coaster. Only a few months ago I lost my faith in everything, even God. I experienced alot of anger, an emotion I wasn't used to. I had a hard time accepting all the changes in my life. But two people really helped me get through everything. Michael of course, and Lisa from standupgirl. Lisa was a huge emotional support for me. I could vent to her, and she gave amazing advice. The love and support she gave me, a complete stranger, really helped me find hope in the situation.

Last summer I was your average teenage girl, now I am a mom. I love my little guy more than life itself. Michael and I have a bond few teenagers get to experience. Most importantly I have a closer relationship with God then I ever have. Sometimes the most awful situations in life can be blessings in disguise. I will never be the same after that night. I lost alot that night, but in the end I gained more.

The end..........................................

The agony of being raped is a torture to the victims, rapist should please decline from this act, so many destinies has been ruined because of being raped. Lets stop this barbaric act and live together in a LOVE WORLD free from Rape.

To all those who have been raped one time or the other, please, try and put the past behind you and get moving, the past is gone, the future is what matters. If you have a story to share, feel free to share it on this website.

PEACE

So many people are into long time relationship that leads to no where, there are just there, no commitments anymore, the spark that use to be there is no longer there, but they find it very difficult to break such relationship because they are afraid to hurt the other party;

There are so many reasons, why people find it difficult to break from a relationship that has lasted for years;

1)Some People are into long relationship to pay for maybe a sacrifice the other party has made one time or the other to them.

2)Some people are into a long time relationship just out of pity for the other person involve in the relationship

3) Some people are into long time relationship because maybe one of the party is wealthy, and they needs wealth and security.

4) Some people remain in loveless relationship, maybe because a child came into the picture, and they both need to be with the child. So the child is the only thing that binds them togther, not love.

So many reasons, I can go on and on without stopping. The truth is to those involve in long time relationship, you and your partner seem to go round in an endless on-again, off again cycle. You cannot seem to live with, or without each other. But the truth is you can break free of it by reappraising yourself and your needs.

See Gloria story below!

Gloria, 27 has finally broken away from her 8yrs on and off relationship. " When Chris and I started seeing each other, we lived many kilometres apart at opposite end of our town. The first time I found out he was cheating on me was in hospital, after having a major operation. I had come to visit him and somehow I overheard his cousins talking about his other girlfriend. "I pretended not to know because I did not want to worry him when he was ill."

Gloria admits that even after she found about her boyfriend's unfaithfullness,she thought he would get out "get over" his fling and come back to her." Instead he went on to cheat with yet another woman, so I broke up with him "she says". But after a few months he begged me to take him back and swore it would never happen again, so we got back togther.

" Things were never the same again, though we fought continually, although the good times- however shortlived were really good. We seemed to be togther for every reason except the right one. The situation carried on for a good 8 years until I realised we were caught in a trap of needing each other, but bringing out the worst in each other and unable to make one another truly happy. So, eventually, I made the decision to leave him."

Gloria then started seeing someone else." At first it was a thrill being with a different man. but soon I started missing the familiarity of what I had before, so I ran back to Chris. He took me back, although our relationship deteriorated even further after that. Our relationship finally ended when Chris got a job outside the town we use to live, but we both realised that it was a blessing in disguise:

Welcome back Readers!

From the above story, so many women and men out there can relate to Gloria story and they know that being in a volatile relationship can be frustrating, but the issue is; how do you find the courage to break away for such a long relationship and start a new one? I leave that questions for readers to answer.

Peace

Now that we have just entered a new year, there are some policy we have to adopt in order to be successful in life. One of this policy is;

HONESTY:
It pays to be honest, this new year, we should learn to be honest in everything we do. This true life story below will show you the advantage of being honest;

Read On:

A 50 year old taxi driver on Osun State Nigeria who had the rare courage to be different when most of his colleagues would probably not is now a millionaire! He's not even a born again Christain! He is a fanatical Muslim! His rag to riches story began when he pickd a passenger who forgot the sum of N170,000.00 (Approximately 1,350 dollars) in his cab.

On discovery that the passenger had forgotten the money, the driver immediately took the money to the state radio station where it was announced repeatedly! The owner raced to the radio station to pick the money after proper security identification! Funny enough the taxi driver was given N1,000(Approximately 10 dollars)by the owner with a warm handshake. This really upset his wife who called him a bastard and packed out of the house. Similarly, some of his friends and colleagues began by calling him a fool and an idiot. But like a Moroccan proverb says, lies buzz like flies, but truth has the brillance of the sun! Soon after some of his friends and wife deserted him, a retired principal went to the radio station to offer the driver his only car! Someone else raced to the station and offered to pay his house rent for two years! Next the (National Union of Road Transport Workers) Osogbo branch brought him a 14 seater bus valued at about N750,000.00, "for doing drivers proud."

Also the Osun State Law makers (26 of them) via a House resolution, agreed to buy a Tokunbo Taxi cab for him. Then a bank called him and offered him N200,000.00 Cash for his honesty.

Welcome back readers, who says honesty does not pay in the long run?Honesty may invite tempoary pains but it always ends up in gain!.

Happy New year to you all, I wish all readers of my blog, a prosperous 2008. I haven't written on my blog for a long time now, because I went on a two week vacation, now I am back and fully prepared to give you the best this year 2008.

I want to say a very big thanks to those of you that are constant visitors to my blog in the year 2007, and also to all my wonderful friends out there, who always comment on my posts, I wish you all the very best this year 2008, and once again happy new year to you all.

As we begin the year, so many people write down their new year resolutions, but half way before the year runs out, they find themselves going back to their old ways and habits, why is it so?????????. Please if anyone has an answer the question above, please do not hesitate to share it with us.

Today, I will be writing on what I tagged, "TIME MANAGEMENT BULLET". Personally, I feel for one to succeed in this New year, one has to manage time properly. That's the only way one can achieve goals and objectives for the year 2008.

Always remember, that time waits for no one. 2007 is history! Yesterday is gone! Tomorrow is a mystery! Today is a gift! That's why it is called the present. My advice to you this year, is to redeem your time:

Consider these gems:

" Guard well your spare moments. They are like uncut diamonds. Discard them and their value will be never be known. Improve them and they will become the brightest gems in useful life." Ralph Waldo Emerson.

" A man who dares to waste one hour of life has not discovered the value of life." Charles Dawin.

" Many people fail in life, not for lack of ability or brains or even courage, but simply because they have never organized their energies around a goal." ELBERT HUBBARD.

"Don't start your day, until you have finished it on paper first." Jim Rohn

Readers, from the above words of wisdom, try to make good use of your time this year. Don't postpone making that important phone call! Don't postpone writing that book! Don't postpone quitting that relationship that you know is heading no where! Don't postpone reading your books! Don't postpone giving your life to Christ! Don't postpone anything! It will be foolish to depend on tomorrow to do what you are supposed to do today. Live today as if it is your last! TOMORROW IS PROMISED TO NO MAN.
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11